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A Sexy Workout Fave

Here’s one for all you baby boomers out there. I was thrilled in 2012 to shed those final few pounds and reach the weight I enjoyed in my twenties, pre-pregnancy. Did I mention said son is now over thirty? So it’s been a while, and as any baby boomer will tell you, it’s not arranged in quite the same way, even though I’ve never not worked out. I have wonderfully strong abs, snazzy legs – and love handles at my waist, in spite of everything.

But I found the perfect move to whip them into shape, courtesy of Beyonce and Women’s Health Magazine: Side planks with knee tuck twist. Caveat – I am not a trainer, so if you want to do this move, go to the Workout Link and do exactly as they say! Essentially, the move is a side plank, upper arm bent at the elbow with hand on head, in which the lower leg comes forward in a knee tuck while the torso and upper arm bend so the elbow reaches toward the moving knee. Got that? Look it up :)! According to the instructions I read, Beyonce does ten reps on each side, three sets.

I lay on the floor on my side as instructed, bent my lower arm at the elbow and placed that forearm on the floor, raised my torso until my weight was only supported by my forearm and my feet – and promptly rolled forward, falling out of the plank. This, in spite of years of regular cardio workouts and occasional yoga. Definitely some muscles in need of a new workout!

So the first hurdle was strength and balance. Needless to say, once I got the balance thing figured out, adding the knee tuck (never mind the torso bend!) immediately rolled me forward flat on the floor again. Or sometimes, backwards. Three sets of ten reps? Not gonna happen.

Start small is my main motto – and truly, that is what I did. My first day, just getting one rep accomplished on each side was a major miracle. I wisely skipped the next day. Day three – still just one on each side. Day five I was finally able to bump it up to two. And so it went, a little more each day, until I could crank out a full ten reps on each side without falling out of the plank.

Am I there yet? Way improved – and in any case, it’s a process. But when I put on my low-rise jeans, that irritating roll of flab over the belt is missing, so I’m happy, and that’s motivation to keep at it.

One more thing: Did you notice my main motivation for adding this routine to my workout was vanity? Guess what – it doesn’t matter what it takes to get you started on something that’s good for you. Turns out this routine has fabulous payoff in the bedroom! It works your obliques and strengthens your core, so you’ll experience improved stamina, not to mention better Kegel squeeze power. And yes, my husband noticed – he loves it. Try it out – your sex life will be glad you did.

What’s your favorite workout move? We’d love to hear about it.

Have fun – and Stay Sexy!


Stay Sexy: What’s your erotic fantasy?

If you’re an erotic romance reader, we already know you like to fantasize – let’s face it, a major reason any of us read erotic scenes is to identify with one or more characters and ride the fantasy of exquisite, sizzling sex to its inevitable mind-blowing conclusion.

But here’s a thought, stimulated by a blog I happened on yesterday: How about fantasizing yourself as the star of your very own erotic movie, written, cast, directed and experienced in vivid detail by none other than you?

Eva Blake’s post on Liberating Desire got me thinking. What she’s proposing sounds a lot like the kind of bedroom excitement that set my husband and myself on the path towards writing erotic romance. We already enjoyed watching adult films as an extra touch to heighten arousal for our times together, and we started talking about which stars turned us on most, what we’d love to have them do, what story lines we liked, what qualities in the films turned us on or off. It wasn’t long before we were putting ideas on the page about what we’d love to watch or be part of and writing our own stories. Did we fantasize from the start that they’d be published? No – but all dreams start somewhere. Who knows where your fantasies can lead you?

So here’s our Stay Sexy advice for today: Let your fantasies fly. Reap the rewards of filling out the fantasy in all the details you can think of. Give all five of your senses a treat – what do you see, hear, smell, taste and above all touch? What do you feel touching you? How does the scene shift as you direct it? Does someone or something surprise you?

Maybe you won’t end up putting the fantasy on a page, but you will create an erotic experience you can revisit again and again, with or without a partner, and that can definitely help you stay vibrant, healthy, excited and sexy.

Just for fun, we thought we’d keep you guessing whether any or all of the following fantasies we’ve written came true for us:

a) enjoying sensual touch from three pairs of hands, in Shelia’s Pre-nups

b) having a splendid shipboard affair on a cruise, in Meghan’s Playhouse: April Swings

c) making love outdoors under the northern lights, in Colors of the Night

Did we get you thinking? What special ingredient would you include in your fantasy scene? We’d love to hear!

Have fun, and stay sexy!



Stay Sexy: The sexiest thing you can ever do…

…is get your heart rate up there!

Okay, so you already know being sexy probably has to involve our hearts – we want to be sexy with the person we give our heart to, right? And after all, this week is Valentine’s Day, so talking about our hearts is a natural.

But here’s the thing: elevating our heart rate into that aerobic target zone, even a little bit, does something magical for both our bodies and our brains. Turns out it helps us be both more desirable and more interested in being sexy!

Body-wise, it helps us burn fat (and, if you saw our Stay Sexy column last week, you know having sex burns as many calories as lots of other forms of exercise). Plus, there’s more, according to the Mayo Clinic. It makes our metabolism more efficient. It’ll improve our stamina, in case we’re aiming for a marathon session. It reduces pain – maybe that’s why my migraine episodes decreased as my workouts increased. I’ll take it! It revs up our immune system, reducing our likelihood of getting sick. And, naturally, it’s good for our hearts. It strengthens the heart muscles and helps clear out our arteries by boosting our HDL cholesterol (the good kind).

Did that list sound sexy? Not so much, by itself – but even just sticking with what it does for the body, I’ll look better, feel better and live longer, and that’s sexy.

The brain magic is even more impressive – and less well known. According to Dr. John Ratey, in Spark, spending time in our target heart rate zone decreases depression, reduces anxiety, relieves stress, decreases dementia in later life, and even increases our brain capacity. Personally, I think that’s very sexy – I’ll be happier, more relaxed, smarter, and possibly even more inventive!

I hope this list of benefits has piqued your curiosity – I’d love to answer questions about how all this works (see, I told you it makes us smarter 🙂 ). Stay tuned – in future Stay Sexy columns, we’ll be sharing more personally about the impact this information has had for both my husband and myself.

In the meantime – Happy Valentine’s Day, have fun, and stay sexy!

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