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Stay Sexy ~ Baby Boomers do it with Style!

Did you see the Huff Po article yesterday about women over fifty reading and writing erotic fiction? Here’s the LINK, in case you missed it. Should anyone be surprised? Baby boomers – the youngest of whom will turn fifty in 2014 – didn’t just come of age during the sexual revolution, they pretty much invented it. You can bet we’re not giving up our sexuality without a fight as we enter midlife and beyond.

Turns out there’s a conservative Republican running for the Colorado State Senate – and it has surfaced that a decade ago, she wrote erotic romance for Extasy Books under a pen name, to help support her family as a single mom after her day job as an EMT.

The discovery may be causing her political trouble in Colorado, but I liked the Huff Po take on the matter. Their lead line is “Jaxine Bubis, Erotic Fiction Writing Senate Candidate, Is Not Alone: Older Women Love Erotica.”

Agreed. Love to read it, love to write it, love to watch it – love to use it to spice up the action in the bedroom (or any other handy room). Here’s to hot sex after fifty and beyond.

Have fun, and stay sexy!


Stay Sexy ~ Good to the Bone!

If you’re not a baby boomer like me, you might not worry about your bones, but I do, and you should, too. Why worry? Age, for one thing. All of us – women, especially – begin to lose at least a little bone mass in mid life, and the loss tends to speed up after menopause. If genetics are not on your side (and they’re definitely not, for me), that’s another big reason. So I worry.

I worry (and my healthcare team worried) so much that four years ago I had a bone density scan, and was diagnosed with osteopenia, the precursor to osteoporosis. That scared me. The form letter that announced this diagnosis stated I should take calcium, and how much, and that I should engage in “weight bearing” exercises to attempt to prevent further loss.

But how much weight, and which muscles, and what drills? I was clueless. So I requested and received a referral to physical therapy, where I worked with a therapist specially trained in osteoporosis prevention. It turns out the most crucial muscles to engage are the ones connected to the bones that are most vulnerable to loss of mass and fractures: hips, spine (including neck), shoulders, and wrists. She led me in developing a fifteen minute routine to work these muscle masses, and I added it to the mix of my workouts.

Fast forward four years: this spring, hubs and I have scheduled what we’re calling the hundred-thousand-mile checkup, touching base with all our providers to get checked out before embarking on our full-time motorhome adventure in mid July. Getting another bone scan was part of the battery of tests.

I am thrilled to report to you that I am now good to the bone – my bones are normal! Does that mean I can relax? No, it means the opposite – what I’m doing is working, and I need to keep doing it. For the rest of my life.

Rather than try to talk you through the exercises I’m doing, I thought I’d give you a link to one of them. This YouTube VIDEO has three exercises – two for the hips, and one for the pelvis, hips and spine, which is one of the ones I’ve been doing. As with any new routine, be sure to check with a healthcare provider before embarking on a change.

So here’s hoping I can stay vibrant, healthy, sexy and excited, with strong bones to carry me through our adventures. I’d love to answer questions about what’s been working for me. Meanwhile, have fun, and Stay Sexy!


Stay Sexy ~ The Two Minute Wonder

Okay, did you think I was talking about a two-minute quickie? Not exactly… But this two minute wonder will definitely contribute to a sexier, happier, healthier you.

Something Cassandra Carr said on Facebook this week made me think of this – she was struggling to keep from stress eating, and turned to her FB friends for support to avoid it. I shared my two-minute solution with her and decided I should share it with you, as well.

Basically, this is an effective, easy and quick response to reduce any symptoms or experience related to stress and anxiety, whatever the source.

All you do is move, for two straight minutes, in any activity or motion that gets your heart rate up into your target zone. That’s all! Could be anything – jumping rope (with or without an actual rope), burpees, grapevines, yoga frogs, jazz squares, (these last two are my personal faves), standing still and punching your arms, whatever bumps your pulse up into the zone.

I’m here to tell you it works miracles – and whether you wanted to know or not, I’m here to tell you how it works and why. In a nutshell, getting the heart rate into the zone triggers a hormone that shuts down our stress response.

It turns out our experience of “stress” is simply our body’s archaic response to prepare us to fight or flee from whatever is stressing us. Not so useful, most of the time, in resolving the stressor. But just like our body has an “on” switch for the cortisol/adrenal system that ramps us up, it has switches to turn the system off. One of these is (stay with me here…) ANP, or atrial natriuretic peptide. Produced by a muscle in the heart, it “directly tempers the body’s stress response,” and it has been shown to increase in production as the heart rate increases during exercise.

Here are some other things this two minute wonder can do:

– Focus. I have very mild ADD. This means I often have trouble prioritizing and staying focused on things I’ve gotten started – and if I’m feeling pressured (which is likely, if I forgot to keep going on a deadline project), stress builds, and I can’t think. These were the moments in my former day job when I’d shut my office door, and my colleagues knew I was in there doing yoga frogs and jazz squares. It worked every time.

– Headaches. Not always, but most of the time, if I catch a headache early and put in my two minutes, I can head it off at the pass. It’s always worth a try.

– Motivation. By now you know I do a cardio/strengthening workout nearly every day. Some mornings it’s hard to make myself get started, but if I can convince myself I’m “only” going to put in my two minutes and then see what happens, often I can keep going.

– Depression. Basically, when our body’s moving, it increases production of dopamine and all those other feel-good neurotransmitters. When it’s not moving, production slows down and we feel depressed. Two minutes all by itself might not make much of a dent over the long haul – but the more often we do it, the more our body continues to increase production, leading to an upward spiral in which we feel better and become more motivated to pump our heart rate up more often. It goes without saying that not moving sends the spiral in the opposite direction.

– Memory and Learning. Overall brain health, in a nutshell. We’ll feel more alert, retain new information better, improve our ability to think, and use our marvelous minds more effectively.

– Staying Sexy. You knew I’d get around to it – even two minutes can make us feel better; over time it’ll help us look better, which makes us feel better – which is bound to improve our sexy quotient and our sex life.

All this information is available in great detail in a marvelous little book about our brains, from which the quoted material above is taken. Spark, by John Ratey, talks about the benefit to our brain from just staying active, and the positive impact on anxiety, stress, depression, ADD symptoms, addiction, and women’s health. I highly recommend it.

Have fun, and Stay Sexy!

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