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Stay Sexy with CatalystCon

If you’re sex positive, you won’t want to miss CatalystCon next year, and you can catch it on the East Coast in the Spring or the West Coast in the Fall.

This year’s West Coast session is just wrapping up in Woodland Hills, CA—I couldn’t go, but the hashtag #ccon gave me a window on the fabulous presentations and conversations.

Here are some of the best tweets. I’ve left some hashtags on so you can follow the topics that interest you.

Sex positivity and Shame

Bree Ervin ‏@thinkbanned15h No such thing as normal. Wrap your head around it and sex positivity just comes to you. @charlieglickman

The UnSlut Project ‏@UnSlutProject17h Being around people who are accepting helps disarm internal shame.

Arthaey Angosii ‏@arthaey17h “I’ve stopped shaming people who don’t enjoy active lifestyles. People have different priorities.”

Gender and sexuality

Charlie Glickman ‏@charlieglickman19h “Sexual orientation is about who you go to bed with, not who you go to bed as.” Love this! #cconyouth

Charlie Glickman ‏@charlieglickman19h Too many people assume that gender variance is the same as sexual orientation. That needs to stop. #cconyouth

Charlie Glickman ‏@charlieglickman19h Gender variance is about the person. Sexual orientation is about who they’re attracted to. One doesn’t imply the other, #cconyouth

Charlie Glickman ‏@charlieglickman19h Assigned sex is based on a glance of an infant’s genitals. Affirmed gender is someone’s chosen identity. #cconyouth

Charlie Glickman ‏@charlieglickman19h “big strong boy” & “cute little girl” The gender binary starts before birth. “What color are you painting the nursery?” #cconyouth

Open/Poly relationships

Janine @OpenJanine We are part of one community: ethical non-monogamists. —@swingsetlife #cconswing

The Transient ‏@_TheTransient_19h Non monogamy is growing. Expect new terms and sub-cultures!

The Transient ‏@_TheTransient_19h There’s enough non monogamous types now to start causing a fuss. Let’s start a political party!

Adriana Kraft ‏@AdrianaKraft19h Love this word: Monogamish RT @u_experience: #Monogamish #Cconswing

Dr. Leanna Wolfe @DrLeannaWolfe #cconswing So much easier for swingers to lay low than poly, gay, trans and most kink

Feminist Porn

Arthaey Angosii ‏@arthaey19h “Feminist porn: real people having real sex and having real orgasms while they do it.” #cconporn

Arthaey Angosii ‏@arthaey19h “Feminist porn show things mainstream porn tends not to show: connection and chemistry and power and identity.” #cconporn

The UnSlut Project ‏@UnSlutProject19h Feminist porn is like feminism itself bc there’s difference w/in the movement, but that does not = contradiction. @TristanTaormino #cconporn

Joan Price ‏@JoanPrice19h RT @LiberateDesire: Inspiring, revolutionary Sex positive, feminist culture producers: @JackieStrano @TristanTaormino @LynnComella #cconporn

Joan Price ‏@JoanPrice18h The porn I want to watch doesn’t exist – sexy, empowered #seniorsex. Lynn & Tristan say I shld make it happen.

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I ended with this last tweet because I am so excited about it – what do you think: Would you like to see sexy, empowered senior sex in adult videos? I’d love to hear specifics about what you’d want to see in senior porn!

Have fun, and Stay Sexy!


Stay Sexy ~ We’re Not Making This Stuff Up!

…well, of course, in our erotic romance fiction, we make up lots of stuff. 🙂

But today I’m talking about those phrases you may have seen out there like sixty is the new forty, reverse the effects of aging, stay forever young, and the like. Pie in the sky? Nope, it’s true!

Of course we’re not going to actually stay young forever – but increasingly, there’s compelling evidence that certain healthy lifestyle habits do, in fact, reverse some of the effects of aging.

Earlier this week, NPR covered the most recent entry into this database. In a five year study authored by Dean Ornish, of heart-health fame, participants who engaged in a select group of healthy practices lengthened the telomeres on the ends of their chromosomes significantly, while the telomeres of the control group actually shortened.

It would take a lot of brain science to delve into a thorough understanding of telomeres and how they function, but here’s a short version: telomeres protect the dna within the chromosomes, and shorter telomeres are associated with shorter life span and an increase in many chronic diseases.

Prior to the present study, it’s not been known whether healthy living creates longer telomeres (and decreased susceptibility to disease), or whether people with longer telomeres simply have a healthier lifestyle, perhaps because they enjoy greater health. This exploratory study demonstrates in a small sample that the lifestyle differences can be causal.

So yes, sixty can be the new forty – or at least, in our sixties, we can still reverse some of the effects of aging through our habits. What habits? Ornish elaborated as follows:

A whole foods, low-fat, plant-based diet that’s also low in refined carbohydrate.

Walking for a half an hour a day.

Doing various stress management techniques, including yoga and meditation, for an hour a day.

Spending more time with their loved ones, including friends and family.

Apropos of all of the above, my husband and I went dancing last night. It’s part of what we love about being so close to Las Vegas, where great dance bands are easy to come by. We were fascinated by a highly energetic and broadly smiling elderly couple who hardly sat out a dance – fast or slow, western, rock and roll or hip-hop. I would have guessed their age to be early seventies, at most. A friend set us straight: both member of this couple are ninety years old. Not only that – where did they meet, after they’d each lost their spouse? They met at the gym, where they both still work out regularly.

That’s what I want to be when the time comes – ninety, vigorous, and happily dancing my feet off!


Stay Sexy ~ Exercise Your Brain!

We all know that the brain is the most important sex organ.

Losing my mind is one of my greatest fears when I think about aging. Both my parents were blessed – or cursed – with bodies that long outlasted their minds. My mother spent the last eight years of her life in a horrific haze, unaware of who she was or who we were, due to Alzheimer’s Disease. It’s in my gene pool.

So I’m all about finding and doing anything I can that’s been shown to postpone or reduce Alzheimer’s progression. I’ve written before about the tremendous positive impact of aerobic exercise on the brain – but there’s another half to the equation. All those new embryonic neurons that are bathed in growth hormones when we exercise won’t develop into full-fledged brain cells or get picked up in new brain circuits unless we’re also exercising our minds – learning new things, challenging the brain with something it hasn’t encountered before.

As with physical exercise, if it’s not something we enjoy, we’re less likely to keep at it. So hubs and I have turned to astronomy, chiefly for fun, but also as a challenge. Our night sky is a vast puzzle, filled with the familiar and the unfamiliar (to me). We’ve purchased a spotting scope, and in the limited library we can carry with us in our motorhome, we have three print books on the stars. I’ll say more about my favorite of these, An Intimate Look at the Night Sky, in a brief review below.

We’ve had fabulous clear nights in South Dakota, Nebraska, Texas and New Mexico as we’ve slowly trekked our way towards Las Vegas this summer. My childhood experience of the stars never went much beyond the Big Dipper, but we’re gradually coming to know the major constellations currently visible, where to find which planets, and how to locate some of the fascinating deep space phenomena. Several nights we’ve seen shooting stars – and known which meteor shower they were part of.

Do you know what zodiacal light is? I didn’t either (and you can look it up HERE), but I got up in time to see it on a clear morning last week, and was also rewarded with another shooting star, a stray from the Aurigids.

The challenges to my brain? Memorization, for starters – names in strange languages, classification, which bright star goes belongs to which constellation and where is it. Truly it’s like learning a new language – which is another highly recommended brain exercise. Then there’s translating the fractions of inches on our charts to the vastness of the sky dome, and moving back and forth from what I think I’ve seen to what the diagram looks like.

The rewards, of course, are far more than just new neuron circuits for my brain. Each time we go outside and look up, there is the gift of the overwhelming beauty and vastness of the night sky.  It’s a great couple’s activity, it can be incredibly relaxing and meditative, and it sure beats out watching TV.

Here’s my brief review – definitely a Recommended Read!

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An Intimate Look at the Night Sky
Author: Chet Raymo
© 2001
Available in hardcover, paperback and Kindle at Amazon

In this lyrical book, physicist and professor Chet Raymo takes us on a profound journey through the visible night sky and the stories it reveals about the creation and history of the universe, our earth, and our very selves. With the voice of a Renaissance man, he pulls from our culture’s music, poetry, myth, and prose across the centuries to connect us with the constellations – stars from our own Milky Way galaxy – and the “deep space” phenomena from the farthest reaches of space and time. Organized by the seasonal changes in the sky, the book weaves simple instructions for locating stars and constellations with hard research and theoretical physics to explain what we are seeing when we look up at night. It may seem counterintuitive to talk about becoming intimate with something as vast as the stars in the sky, but this little book succeeds in creating an emotional connection as palpable as the dust of stars that makes up our physical bodies. I highly recommend this exquisite read.

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Have fun, and Stay Sexy!

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