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It’s a Tough Job…

But somebody’s got to do it!

“Research,” I mean. No, not that kind, though hubs and I enjoy our share of that, too.

I’m talking about combing the web every morning for the latest tips, guides, and resources to spice up your sex life. Of course, we hope you include sharing sizzling scenes from our erotic romances – that’s why we write them, after all.

When we find something we like, we share it on our Facebook PAGEhop over there and “like” us to feed our finds into your Facebook newstream.

Already we love how this is enriching our own life. I’m an early riser, so most mornings by the time I take my husband his first cup of coffee, my brain is buzzing with sexy ideas I’ve found and I’m ready to plot new scenes and stories (or activities :)). We’re sure finding more ideas than we’ll be able to try out in one lifetime – but we’ll bring you the best of them, and sometimes also blog about them.

One of our faves is the Good Vibrations online magazine, The Buzz, at http://goodvibesblog.com. This morning, they had some great tips for staying present during sex – you know, not leaving our bodies or making the holiday to-do list or fostering anxious thoughts that take us away from the pleasure of the moment.

It’s a fabulous article packed with good advice. My personal favorite (and one I practice regularly) is #3: “Third, before sex, spend 30 minutes to an hour doing whatever makes you feel hot.” This can be a marvelous prelude to set the mood and ramp up the eroticism. It can be whatever works for you – perhaps a soothing bubble bath, your favorite adult videos, a massage with scented oils, or reading a spicy erotic scene, alone or together.

Here’s the link – enjoy!

http://goodvibesblog.com/staying-present-during-sex/

 

Anal Sex and Erotica

Okay, I read lots of erotica. Hubs and I write erotica and erotic romance together, and we include anal play in nearly every book we write. Why? Because we love it. Both of us love it.

So I am always distressed when I read scenes by other authors in which anal intercourse is portrayed as painful. There is no need, ever, for the receiving party to experience pain. If pain occurs (and if the participants aren’t seeking pain, which is another story), both participants haven’t paid enough attention to preparation and lubrication. That doesn’t sound very loving or romantic to me.

Most of the scenes I’m referring to follow the painful anal entry with exquisite pleasure, making clear the recipient believes the pain is worth it. I don’t doubt that it’s worth it – I just don’t think pain is a necessary price to pay.

So I was very pleased to see sex educator Charlie Glickman’s Blog today about recent research on anal sex and women. The study he’s discussing found that nearly half of the heterosexual women in their sample who’d experienced anal intercourse in the last year had to discontinue the experience due to pain or discomfort. Glickman goes on to suggest what follow-up questions should be asked to uncover the causes of painful anal intercourse – and, hopefully, to lead to solutions that prevent pain and increase pleasure.

The crucial ingredients to prevent pain? In my experience, attitude, education, lubrication and preparation. Did hubs and I always love it? Speaking for myself here, no. I started out with a negative attitude and didn’t even want to go there. He accepted that. But once we started using videos to spice up our bedroom encounters, I had a chance to watch others receiving anal pleasure, and my attitude shifted. We are always looking for new and exciting ways to keep our sex lives fresh and innovative.

The next step, of course, was education. We had help from two sources here and I highly recommend both of them: the Better Sex Guide to Anal Pleasure (available HERE), and Nina Hartley’s Guide to Anal Pleasure (available HERE).

Lubrication and preparation? Self explanatory, I hope. And both elements can be an extended source of sexual pleasure all by themselves, whether or not they culminate in anal penetration for either partner.

So those are the kinds of anal scenes we write in our novels – tender, caring, sensual, arousing, and explicitly exciting. We hope you enjoy them!

 

Don’t Waste Your Money!

Cruising the web last week to update buy links and review links for my back list, I ran across a reader’s review for the first book in our Swinging Games series at Extasy Books, Anticipation. Let me say first that, like most authors, I’ve developed a tough skin for negative reviews of our work. I’m not writing this blog to refute a negative review – everything this reader wrote is, in fact, true about this book. Here’s her one-star review:

 This is a short story about meeting another couple that they never actually meet. I read it in about 15 minutes. Don’t waste your money.

My husband and I write erotic romance together, mostly ménage, and mostly with heroines who are bisexual. We started writing our Swinging Games series about three years ago because we were fascinated by the Swing Lifestyle and thought it would be a fun device to deliver a wide range of ménage and other hot sex scenes for our readers. We created our lead characters – a Baby Boomer couple whose kids are grown. Brett and Jen Andrews have decided to try swinging to spice up their sex life, and because Jen has newly realized she’s bisexual.

Anticipation is a 5,000 word short story that sets the stage for the series. It drops in on our couple just before their first lifestyle encounter. We get to experience with them the delicious buildup of fantasies, expectations and sexual tension – not to mention the tantalizing impact of those fantasies when Jen and Brett make love, just the two of them.

So, if you only want to spend money on actual ménage, absolutely, don’t waste your money on this one – plunge right in anywhere in the series and taste the decadence with Jen and Brett in any number of swinging adventures. By now they’ve been active for three years, and six more books have followed Anticipation.

  

  

We’re excited to announce that Book Eight, Pushing the Limits, is scheduled for release this coming Sunday, January 15, at Extasy Books. Here’s a blurb and a link to an EXCERPT:

BLURB: Swinging Games Pushing the Limit

Their new Unicorn Sarah Creston may be out of town, but that doesn’t stop Jen and Brett Andrews from burning up the wires with some scorching three-way phone sex. While they’re waiting for Sarah, Ryan eagerly pursues Brett for some hot male action, followed by a house party that challenges Jen and Brett’s stereotypes. Sarah finally arrives, exhausted and drained from weeks spent helping her aging parents. Jen and Brett provide total tender care for three days – but when Jen invites Sarah to move in for the whole summer, Brett asks himself, what’s the limit?

 
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