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Sex Positivity, continued.

Every morning I troll my FaceBook “Likes” looking for posts to share with readers. Hubs and I write erotic romance together because we love it, we love great sex, and we want to be part of helping our readers not only find hot spicy reads, but expecially find joy and pleasure in their sexuality.

Two posts crossed my path this morning and they kind of go together. The first is from Life On The Swingset – a real-life swinger who is blogging about his journey in the lifestyle. He came out about his poly lifestyle to a friend, and it cost him the friendship. Here’s the blog LINK. Go like his Facebook Page, if you’re looking for a window into the poly lifestyle.

The very next post in my feed was from The Pleasure Coach (another page I highly recommend you “like”) – it was the graphic below:

So I always reach back to the Sex Positivity credo (with a shout-out to sex blogger Charlie Glickman) when I run into these things: There are only three criteria for judging any sexual act.

  1. that it takes place among consenting adults
  2. that it brings pleasure to the participants
  3. that it brings no harm to anyone involved.

That’s it. Period. No judgment, no censure, no shame in someone else’s choices, as long as it meets these criteria.

So that’s my hope, on this mid-January day in 2013.

Go have some intensely erotic, normal fun!

 

Celebrate Feminist Porn!

It’s no secret that hubs and I (who write erotic romance together under the pen name Adriana Kraft) enjoy our share of porn flicks, often as part of foreplay. Some of our characters do, too – most notably, Jennifer Andrews, from our Swinging Games series at Extasy Books. Watching videos together with her husband, Jennifer discovered that she got turned on by imagining herself on the receiving end of the actresses, even more than the actors. Could she be bisexual? She and Brett turned to the swing lifestyle to find out, and our series was launched.

Who was she watching? We weren’t privileged to be in the bedroom with Jen and Brett while the DVDs were running (though that might have been fun :)), but we can bet the best of them were from some of the new feminist porn directors who emerged over the last decade.

This morning over at Get Lusty for Couples, we ran across an interview with Erika Lust, whose work we highly recommend. She’s doing on film what we hope we’re doing on the page of our novels: “Watching an erotic film together could be the ultimate fantasy for some people, or it may open doors to new ones – like exploring fetishes, trying new positions or even making a film of one’s own! The key here is communication, and watching films together can really get the ball rolling, especially if you’re having a hard time explaining what you want, or what you fantasize about trying.”

Maybe Jen and Brett watched Five Hot Stories for Her, or perhaps it was Life Love and Lust. If you’d like to explore Erika’s work, you can download two free shorts by signing up for her newsletter at this LINK on her Facebook page.

You’ll be glad you did!

 

Prolonging Pleasure

This morning I ran across a fabulous post from Get Lusty for Couples – Seven ways to Prolong Foreplay: http://getlusty.blogspot.com/2012/12/7-ways-to-prolong-foreplay.html

In a marvelous convergence of real life and fantasy, it also happens that I spent the morning editing a prolonged erotic scene in our upcoming full length paranormal erotic romance, Aria Returns (forthcoming 2013, Extasy Books). Hubs and I invented (we think) the timeless love goddess Aria as a device to bring sacred sex and ancient wisdom to contemporary couples. In Colors of the Night, she rescued a hopeless marriage from the brink of divorce. In Aria Returns, she helps our heroine leave an abusive relationship, reacquaint herself with sex as play, and ultimately discover sacred sex. We hope our heroine will ready herself for a real relationship with our hero – but that gets ahead of our story!

In the scene I’m editing, Aria coaches our couple to the brink of orgasm and back not just once, but over and over, helping them prolong their heightened state of arousal and build toward the most all-encompassing orgasm either of them has ever experienced.

You’ll have to wait another month or two to read how Aria did it, but in the meantime, please enjoy these tips from a real-life coach to heighten your pleasure!

 
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