Thanks so much to everyone who stopped by and commented, and to Lucy Felthouse, who organized the tour for us.
If you’d still like to check out the posts and catch the spicy excerpts, here are links to everyone’s:
4/23 Kissa Starling http://www.koolqueerlit.com/2012/04/sapphic-planet.html
5/2 Dalia Craig http://sexyreads.co.uk/guest-blogs/sapphic-planet-dalia-craig/
5/4 Adriana Kraft http://lucyfelthouse.co.uk/guest-bloggers/guest-blog-sapphic-planet/
Ladies, have you been doing your kegels? Don’t know what that is? Here’s a hint: all the heroines we write who love to clench tight on their hero’s throbbing shaft – it’s that muscle. I promise all our heroines are exercising that muscle regularly, even if we don’t give you details about their exercise routines!
I’m indebted to Charlie Glickman, however, for posting yesterday about a new cell phone app called Kegel Camp to coach you through keeping that muscle strong and limber – and not just for the ladies, either. Longer, stronger orgasms for both sexes, firmer erections for men – what’s not to like?
While you’re at it, if you like erotica and erotic romance, I highly recommend following his blog. There’s a war going on out there, being waged by politicians who want to regulate want we can read and what we can do with our bodies. Charlie’s part of the counter-attack.
But back to exercises that improve sexual enjoyment – here’s another muscle you should be working out regularly: your smile muscle. Did you know that when we engage the muscle that makes our smile reach all the way up to our eyes, our brain releases endorphins? You know, those feel-good brain chemicals that reduce pain, improve mood and give us a pleasure buzz. You can read more about the benefits of smiling at this LINK. Smiling improves longevity, too – and I’m all about living a longer, happier, sexually fulfilled life!
Consent, Pleasure, Well Being. The term Sex Positivity has been around for a while and can mean many different things to different people.
Lately I’ve been following blogger and Sex Educator Charlie Glickman, and I like his definition best of all. The only criteria for evaluating any sex act, he says, are consent, pleasure, and well being.
Being sex positive doesn’t mean that we love sex, or have lots of it, or think everyone should practice free love. In fact, it means we don’t judge what anyone else wants to practice – gay, straight, kinky, vanilla, monogamous, polyamorous or celibate – beyond those three cardinal parameters:
Is it consensual? Are all the parties adult, are they aware and informed about what they’re doing, and have they agreed? Is it pleasurable for the parties involved? Does it contribute to the well being of all who are involved? I am reminded of the Wiccan rede, An it harm none.
What does this have to do with the erotic romance my husband and I write? Right now, we’re polishing off another entry in our Swinging Games series at Extasy Books. In that series a married baby boomer couple have expanded their sexual practice to become part of the swing lifestyle. Being sex positive means we don’t judge them or their practice, so long as they agree it’s consensual, pleasurable and contributes to their well being. And, of course, we hope that reading about what they’re up to is consensual, pleasurable, and contributes to readers’ well being!
Swinging Games: Too Close for Comfort is due out from Extasy Books early this summer. Books One through Eight are available now at Extasy Books.