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Ménage in Erotic Romance

Our guest blogger from last week, Cecilia Tan, got me thinking about the varieties of ménage scenes we write in our erotic romance and why we write them. We got started, of course, because of the erotic appeal of even imagining a third partner in a sexual encounter: an extra pair of hands, the pleasure of two persons entirely devoted to satisfying the third, the famous male fantasy of two women at once and of course its counterpart, double penetration for the female. We’ve written all those, and we love to read them.

 

But what about the variety of relationships that make such encounters possible? Sometimes it’s a true polyamory – as in our full length novel Writing Skin, in which Luci Parker is courted by a married couple. Each of the pairs in that resulting triangle struggles to develop the bonds of trust and love that make the committed three-way relationship possible and satisfying.

 

Sometimes, as in our Meghan’s Playhouse series of novellas, a primary bond (the romance!) forms between two parties, and the additional characters and ménage scenes serve the purpose of driving forward their story and their romance. That was Meg’s role at the beginning of the series, when she was a carefree twenty year old sprite. By now we’ve watched her grow up across four books and her needs have changed – hence, book five: Meg’s Folly, her own version of a happy (romantic!) ending. It’s available in print and e-book at Whiskey Creek Press Torrid.

 

Relationships in the swing lifestyle are very different. Most swingers are committed couples, already (we hope) secure in their love and trust together. They seek erotic encounters with others for pure pleasure and variety, and for most, the excitement and energy of those experiences feed back into their ongoing relationship. Some couples prefer to keep their swinging encounters simple: meet, have some great sex, and leave without any chance for developing complications. Others seek the “friends with benefits” model – they want to find other couples they can enjoy spending time with doing non-sexy things in addition to bedroom activities.

 

Brett and Jen Andrews, our hero and heroine in the Swinging Games series, like this second approach , with a little twist: they’re also seeking a safe outlet for expression of their bisexual nature—yes, by now readers will have figured out that it’s not just Jen who is bi! This is tender territory for both of them, because it’s new, so building trust and establishing a relationship is an important value for them.

 

The next installment of their story was just released at Extasy Books today!

Brett and Jen agree to mentor a much younger couple into the swing lifestyle

– but Carson and Vanessa turn the tables with their bi-play!

 

BLURB

What’s a girl to do? Happily married with all her children grown, Jennifer Andrews has finally figured out she’s bi-sexual – but just turning on to hot f/f fiction and videos isn’t enough. She wants the real thing, and she want to share it with Brett. Addition sounds so much better than subtraction. Will the swing lifestyle be the answer they’re seeking? They’re determined to find out.

Take on a newbie couple? Intrigued by the fact that both partners are bi, Brett and Jen Andrews accept the request of a much younger couple to mentor them into the swing lifestyle. The tables are quickly turned when the new couple pushes boundaries and fulfills fantasies Brett and Jen only dreamed of!

Across the series thus far, Brett has gradually figured out he, too, might be bisexual. Both partners in this new couple turn out to be bi and are thrilled to initiate Brett into some hot M/M action. New three- and four-way combinations are suddenly opened up for all four participants.

EXCERPT:

Brett nodded. “It’s been our experience that most couples need a time or two before they become comfortable with one another. So do either of you have more questions in general about swinging? We’ve covered a lot already. And we’ve gotten into our own likes and dislikes, which is a conversation I’m sure we’ll continue over time.”

“Have you ever done double penetration—one guy in your pussy and one in your ass?”

Jen tilted her head slightly before answering Vanessa. “I know what it is. I’ve tried it.”

“Wow! I so want to try that. Did you like it?”

Brett wondered how honest Jen would be. He knew the answer. Vanessa nearly bounced beside him. Her fingers tightened on his thigh as she waited for Jen’s response. He doubted Vanessa was good at waiting for much of anything.

“I love d.p. if the guys are good at taking their cues from me. But double penetration doesn’t have to be limited to two guys. A woman with a strap-on is a nice variation.”

“Oh wow!” Vanessa scooted even closer to Brett. “I’m creaming just imagining that. I’ve never tried a strap-on with a woman.”

Brett tried not to choke as he processed the implications of Vanessa’s off-hand comment. His butt clenched.

Vanessa leaned in to him to whisper in his ear. “That won’t happen on a first date either. But it is something for you to think about. You have such a nice butt.”

 

Swinging – The New Monogamy?

…so someone at work left it on the table in the lunch room, and when I saw the cover I just had to pick it up and read it: A wedding cake with three figurines gracing its top – one bride, and two grooms! It was the June/July issue of Psychotherapy Networker, and the lead article bore the title “The New Monogamy.” I’ve posted the cover – you can catch the article HERE.

Dr. Tammy Nelson, the article’s author, is a licensed psychotherapist and sexologist whose book, Getting the Sex you Want, is highly recommended. In this article she’s exploring the changing definitions of monogamy and infidelity.

Why would that matter to me as an author of erotic romance? Hubby and I are writing characters caught up in the excitement of the world counselors are just coming to recognize as possibly healthy and valid. Dr. Nelson has talked with a number of couples who confirm they get together with other couples for sex dates. The sample she describes is fairly young – couples whose children are now school age, and who want to “rekindle a youthful sense of adventure, sexual excitement, and desirability” while remaining committed to each other in their primary relationship.

Most of the swinging characters we’re writing are somewhat older – at mid life, their nests are emptying – but their purpose is much the same. We, too, have talked with a number of swinging couples, as part of the research for our Swinging Games series. The individuals we’ve spoken with range in age from mid twenties to just over seventy, though most are over forty. They’ve turned to swinging for a variety of reasons. Often, the female partner (like the lead character we invented for our series) has begun to realize she has bisexual interests, and swinging is a safe way to explore those that both partners can enjoy. Others, including many who remain het in orientation, love the thrill of the chase (and being chased).

The persons we’ve talked with report the same phenomena – they are surprised and gratified by how their mutual sexual adventures enliven and recharge all aspects of their relationship. Feeling desirable, knowing your partner is highly desired, watching your partner give and receive exciting sexual experiences, learning more nuances about giving and receiving pleasure, trying out new ideas and techniques, voyeurism (especially at clubs and parties) and the thrill of more than one pair of hands giving pleasure in threesomes or foursomes are just some of the benefits couples tell us about.

Of course we’re not saying couples should or shouldn’t try out swinging to spice up their relationship – but if you find these fantasies enticing, we do recommend reading together some of the available erotic romance novels centered on swinging. Enjoying an erotic romance together is a safe way to experiment and reap at least a few of the benefits reported by couples we’ve spoken with. Here are some links to get you started:

Swing, an anthology edited by Jolie Du Pre

Swing Pointe by Kissa Starling

The Big 4-Oh by Beth Wylde

Swinging Games by Adriana Kraft

An added bonus – the body jewelry vendor listed below just found me on Twitter and gave me her links. She carries some great Swinging jewelry – all of it non-piercing, not just for nipples:

Nipple Rings from NippleCharms.com
Non Piercing Body Jewelry. All the pleasure & no pain.

Use Code Adriana for 10% Discount!


You can find all my books at Amazon.com 

 

Ask the Sex Expert!

Do you think of yourself as an expert? Apparently Mr. Tweet thinks I’m an expert in Erotica – here’s the message he sent me a couple months ago: “Hi Adriana! You are invited to the Erotica community because members nominated you as an expert they’d love to hear from.”

 

Sounds enticing! I’m happy to claim being an expert on many aspects of sex and erotica – what turns me on, what fantasies I can’t resist, what I love to read – and these are the elements my husband and I take pains to put into the stories we write under our pen name Adriana Kraft. We hope you find them as entertaining and tantalizing as we do!

If you’re tempted to turn some of those fantasies into reality?? Hubby and I aren’t the experts here, and we don’t run an advice column, but we’ve found the perfect source for you: Ask Dan and Jennifer! Have you run into them? I found them on line when we were talking to friends about Swinging Games, our Extasy series on the Swing Lifestyle. I Googled some swing terms to demonstrate the range of what’s out there – and up popped a video of Dan and Jennifer explaining how one half of a married couple could start the conversation about swinging without being threatening or scaring the other partner into the next universe. Very nicely done, I might add!

So we thought it would be fun to give our readers a taste of some of the expertise Dan and Jennifer have to offer. Here’s one of my favorites: How to find your swinging comfort zone:

 

Here’s a little more about them, from their website: “Ask Dan & Jennifer is a very popular and respected Love & Sex web show, advice column, online magazine, and relationship support community.”

Their mission? “We will answer your questions openly, honestly, and without bias or judgment. Question Everything! Our mission is to help people create conscious relationships based on love and acceptance rather than fear, jealousy, anger, and ownership. It’s time to move on from outdated ideas about love and sex.” Sounds a lot like our mission, and we heartily applaud!

Check out some of their hottest topics:

How To Enhance Your Sex Life – http://bit.ly/aNnk3G

First Time Sex Tips – How To Lose Your Virginity In Style – http://bit.ly/b8gV82 

A Little Sexual Tension Can Be Just What A Relationship Needs http://bit.ly/bRPCD9

1,001 Best Places to Have Sex #172: In the Closet at a Friend’s Party – http://bit.ly/ce11Zn

How To Give A Woman Her First Orgasm (Video) – http://bit.ly/bC0AzI

Fun Sex Games To Try With Your Partner – http://bit.ly/9MIqPI

Bondage Basics – http://bit.ly/cYXPcc  Including Video & Pics!!

One Way Successful Couples Make Love Last – http://bit.ly/bAJdef  

Where to find Dan and Jennifer:

Website
YouTube channel
Dan and Jennifer TV
Dan and Jennifer on Twitter 

Have fun and play safe!

 
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