Annabeth Leong on Tour
Today we’re thrilled to welcome author Annabeth Leong, on tour for her new release, Run for Your Love. Be sure to scroll to the bottom for her free book offer!
Communication in Bed
Thanks so much for having me here again! The last time I was invited to this blog, I gave my tips for having werewolf sex in the comfort of your own home. I ended with a big one, though. “Communicate,” I said, but to be honest that’s an entire topic in itself.
Today, I want to break that down a bit more. Communication is obviously important before, during, and after sex, but I’m going to write here about the fun of communication during sex. While talking can be part of this, it doesn’t have to be. Sex itself could be seen as a form of communication, and there are plenty of physical actions that express information and emotion to a partner as well.
1. Show, don’t tell
Are words difficult to summon? Have no fear. Take your partner’s hand and place it where you want to be touched. Move it the way you want it to move.
2. Take turns
Make space for both partners to share their preferences and desires. I’m talkative about sex (in case that isn’t obvious), so with my current partner, my opinions are usually ringing loud and clear. It’s served me well to make space for him to express those things, too. One strategy for this that has worked well for us is to take turns guiding what we’re going to do in bed. A lot of information about what each of us likes comes through naturally along the way.
3. Practice makes perfect
It may feel awkward at first to share information about what you do and don’t like in bed—in some ways, this communication can feel even more intimate to me than the act itself. The first few times I told my partner about what I like, I blushed furiously and stammered through the whole thing. Over time, however, communicating about my sexual desires begins to feel more natural. If the first few times you try it, it seems awkward, keep at it!
4. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes
I’ve asked for things in bed and then discovered I don’t actually like them. I’ve tried things that I thought my partner would like, only to discover that they turned him off completely. This can feel embarrassing, but with a caring partner, they can become another part of the fun. My partner and I can now laugh about the time we tried out an exotic position—and both fell over.
5. Hang back and watch
If you’re comfortable masturbating for your partner and watching your partner masturbate, that’s an awesome way to learn about how each of you likes to be touched. If you feel really adventurous, describe what you focus on while getting yourself off and vice versa.
The sexual plot of my most recent erotic romance, Run for Your Love, is very much about how the hero and heroine discover greater pleasure together than they have managed in previous relationships. This happens because they naturally communicate very well. Zach and Viola are open to each other in bed, willing to reveal themselves as they haven’t before with other lovers. Here’s an example of how they communicate in bed, including a moment when they fumble a bit.
Zach gently pushed me back up into a sitting position. “I want you to…” He trailed off the sentence, settling his hands on my hips instead. I took the hint and began riding him. He led me to lift almost all the way off his cock, then to take him in again in one long stroke. My orgasm had sensitized my insides, so I felt every inch of him entering me and pulling out again. I wished I could slow down and savor the sensation, but I knew the rhythm he was asking for. Taking a deep breath, I put myself to work, making my breasts bounce with the force of my movements, and trying with difficulty to ignore the aching of my bullet wound.
It took a minute to notice Zach trying to get my attention. “Viola,” he said finally, and it didn’t sound like a moan of ecstasy. He tightened his hands on my hips until I couldn’t move freely. I paused, panting from the exertion, and raised a questioning eyebrow.
“You don’t have to…” He blew out a breath. “It’s not a race.”
“I can’t keep this up for too long,” I explained. “If I have to make you come from being on top, then I have to do it before I run out of—”
“Viola.” He pulled me into another kiss, this one long, tender, and extravagant. When he finally released my mouth, he whispered, “You don’t have to ‘make me come.'”
“What are you talking about? I asked what you want me to do.”
“Did I ‘make you come’ just now? Be honest.”
“Well, you were certainly part of it.”
“Right.” He punctuated the statement with a kiss to the tip of my nose. “Be part of it. Don’t be responsible for it.”
I sort of understood what he meant, but not really. I cocked my head at him. “I’m sorry.”
“No need to be sorry. Here.” He returned me to where I’d been before. “How do you want to move?”
I shook my head in confusion. “The way I did when I came.”
“Do you totally hate the way I wanted you to move? Or is there a way you could do it that would feel good to you?”
I bit my lip and tried the thing that had come to mind when he’d first started moving me. A slow slide up and off his cock then an achingly slower drop until he settled into me deeper than I’d thought possible.
“Jesus,” Zach said.
I blinked, his voice jerking me out of the intense inner pleasure I’d gotten from the motion. “Was that okay?”
“That feels incredible. So much better than when you tried to pound us both to death. Please do that.”
I struggled to believe that what felt good to me could also feel good to him. Nothing in my previous experience had suggested men and women had anything in common as far as what they wanted in bed. Still, I’d trusted him so far. It seemed foolish to stop now. I tried the move again…then again.
Almost unconsciously, my hand returned to my clit.
I snatched it away. “Sorry.”
“You’re allowed to enjoy yourself too,” Zach said, pulling my hand back to that wet, wanting place. A little uncertainly, I touched myself.
Shotguns seem to be everyone’s favorite accessory for the zombie apocalypse, but Zach Paul believes he can survive without hurting anyone—not even the zombies. An elite-level runner, he plans to speed away from every danger. Then Zach meets a woman he can’t bring himself to leave behind, and staying beside her tests all his principles.
Viola Ortiz fought free of her controlling boyfriend just before the zombies came, but now she believes her macho ex is the only one who can protect her. She sets out to reunite with him, only to encounter Zach instead. The tall, lean runner is everything her ex is not, and Viola is shocked to find he turns her on as no man has before. Viola’s ex, however, isn’t willing to let go of her, and soon it’s clear that other survivors are as dangerous as the zombies.
Zach and Viola can run, but they must find safety before they lose their humanity in the struggle to protect their lives and growing love.
About the Author
Annabeth Leong has written romance and erotica of many flavors — dark, kinky, vanilla, straight, lesbian, bi, and menage. Her titles for Breathless Press include the contemporary werewolf erotic romances Not His Territory and Not the Leader of the Pack, and Run for Your Love, a romance set in the midst of a zombie apocalypse. She lives in Providence, Rhode Island, blogs at annabethleong.blogspot.com, and tweets @AnnabethLeong
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