• Home
  • Blog
  • Archive by category 'Great Sex'

Archive for ‘Great Sex’

Nina Hartley Changed My Life #AVN Expo

Wow. We did it – hubs and I, who co-write Erotic Romance for Two, Three, or More, sprang for the cost of the tickets and went to yesterday’s Adult Entertainment Expo, part of the AVN Awards celebration this week in Las Vegas.

If there was one person I wanted to meet (and never dreamed I could), it was Nina Hartley. We started watching her videos more years ago than probably she or we would like to confess, though it’s clear we do share baby boomer status with her.

As fans of our Swinging Games series can probably guess, we accessed adult videos (and yes, they were video cassettes) to spice up our own sex life, a daunting challenge with young kids still in the house and the inevitable effects of aging starting to settle in.

We were in the right place at the right time. Nina’s part of a new lifestyle website (more on that in an upcoming blog) – we had no clue, but were just browsing booths and saw her pic. I asked the staff person if she would be there – YES! In ten minutes! You can believe we waited for her – and I was first in line.

What I said:

“Nina, you changed my life.”

What we talked about:

I was astounded. After I told her how much we’ve loved her films, she started talking about how our bodies change as we age, and how important it is to believe in ourselves inside, remember what it felt like to be twenty nine, and enjoy our bodies as much now as we did then. More, in fact – she shared that, and I totally agree. I am having more fun in my body than when I was twenty nine, for certain!

What I wish I’d said:

That she was at the center of a profound series of changes in my life, and I am grateful beyond words. Of the videos we started watching, hers were the most engaging – it’s no surprise I like a storyline, which so many of hers deliver, and I loved watching her body and her sensuality. Naked Hollywood was my favorite series, and we bought them all.

We definitely benefitted from a jump-start to our libidos. That led us, somewhat later, to try our hand at writing the kinds of stories we liked to watch – so Nina, if you’re reading this, I don’t think we’d be a published erotic romance author, if it wasn’t for your adult films.

Good luck at tonight’s Awards Ceremony!!

 

With a nod to Fifty Shades, at #AVN

Who knew! Hubs and I write erotic romance for two, three, or more, and we also love watching adult videos (and would love to see some of our stories on the silver screen). So we’re here in Las Vegas, getting ready to attend the AVN Fan Expo this afternoon – way excited, I can tell you!

But who knew the adult movie industry would credit a recent uptick in sales of toys and adult films to a book, of all things? Here’s a LINK to the article hubs just found, from the Yahoo Financial page.

A couple brief quotes from the post:

From Kristen Tribby, Director of Marketing for The Pleasure Chest:

“It’s not the quality of the book [Fifty Shades of Grey], but rather the conversations surrounding the book that continue to make it something of a phenomenon,” Tribby said. “It’s really changed the way people look at sex. … And for us, it’s really made the mainstream start to take us as an industry more seriously.”

from James Deen, adult film star:

“People, as we evolve, are becoming more sexually open and more socially acceptable of sex.”

But that’s not all. Industry retailers are noting an increasing trend in women and especially baby boomers seeking high-quality toys and entertainment. One toy maker, Maia, is already targeting women and plans a new line for boomers. Don’t laugh, please – a major feature will be larger buttons to operate the toys. I, for one, will be grateful – those tiny buttons can be hard to manage, especially if there’s any lube involved and they get slippery.

I’ll be back tomorrow with a report from our afternoon at the Expo – can’t wait!

 

 

Sex Positivity, continued.

Every morning I troll my FaceBook “Likes” looking for posts to share with readers. Hubs and I write erotic romance together because we love it, we love great sex, and we want to be part of helping our readers not only find hot spicy reads, but expecially find joy and pleasure in their sexuality.

Two posts crossed my path this morning and they kind of go together. The first is from Life On The Swingset – a real-life swinger who is blogging about his journey in the lifestyle. He came out about his poly lifestyle to a friend, and it cost him the friendship. Here’s the blog LINK. Go like his Facebook Page, if you’re looking for a window into the poly lifestyle.

The very next post in my feed was from The Pleasure Coach (another page I highly recommend you “like”) – it was the graphic below:

So I always reach back to the Sex Positivity credo (with a shout-out to sex blogger Charlie Glickman) when I run into these things: There are only three criteria for judging any sexual act.

  1. that it takes place among consenting adults
  2. that it brings pleasure to the participants
  3. that it brings no harm to anyone involved.

That’s it. Period. No judgment, no censure, no shame in someone else’s choices, as long as it meets these criteria.

So that’s my hope, on this mid-January day in 2013.

Go have some intensely erotic, normal fun!

 
© 2014 Adriana Kraft. All Rights Reserved.